Saturday, 2 June 2012

On being a new mummy

Dear Louise, (mummy to a newborn son)

I wish I could tell you not to worry. That you actually do know what you're doing. That the other shoe isn't going to drop. Those first days are crazy, literally. You'll worry about all sorts of silly silly things (like rain damaging the car) and some not so silly things (like your not-so-perfect body bearing the scars of motherhood). It wasn't your fault that you had a cesarean section; 75% of first time mums need assistance to deliver their baby. There wasn't anything you could have done differently or better. And having another baby won't change any of that, though (like anything you practise) you'll get better at it each time you labour.

Listen to your mother. She loves you and knows you like you will love and know that tiny boy. She has wisdom drawn from experience, both the good and the bad. She has enough faith in you to let you forge your own way as a mother. She will always be there when you need her, even if it's just to remind you that you can do this.

Every baby comes complete with challenges and compensations, the good and the bad. People will want to compare him to others; keep your confidence in him and don't worry about what he does and when. He gets there in the end.

Being a mother will show you yet more dimensions of God's love for you. Dark times are coming, a desert wilderness that must be crossed but on the other side is renewal and restoration. Pray often and know that God is listening.

All my love, Louise (mummy to a two year old)

***This post is shamelessly stolen from Leanne, who was inspired by someone else. Head over to her blog & check out her letter.***

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